History of a Gay Couple from Romania
Tudor Kovacs had his first wet dream with a man at the age of six Tudor Kovacs had his first wet dream with a man at age six, but only at 16 and realized that attracts friends, not years, but only at 16 and realized that attracts friends, no girlfriends. friends. He tried to defeat starts, retired in religion took was trying to defeat the stubbornness, retired in religion, took part in an exorcism, then, exhausted, wanted to commit suicide. part in an exorcism, then, exhausted, wanted to commit suicide. Jan Jan Manea is of Curtea de Arges. There, as in many small towns of Manea's in Curtea de Arges. There, as in many small towns in Romania, any output from the "normal" run at the speed of light. Romania, any output from the "normal" run at the speed of light. And because he wanted to be "normal", Jan tried to have relationships with women. Neither he wanted to be "normal", Jan tried to have relationships with women. None I went. The two sisters, both straight, they understood. Mom still went. The two sisters, both straight, they understood. Mother still struggling after one time wanted to disown him. His father died struggling after a time he wanted to disown him. His father died two years without learning the truth about him. two years without learning the truth about him. Tudor and Jan met "a Tudor and Jan met" on a site where guys seeking guys. "Site where guys looking guys." I am five years together and would like to'm five years together and would like to be married, have two cats and your home. married, have two cats and your home. Sometimes they think it is going to go away sometimes. In Barcelona, where they lived the most beautiful getaway go. In Barcelona, where they lived the most beautiful couple getaway. In Barcelona, where they felt freer can step on a road more torque. In Barcelona, where they felt freer can step on a road less narrow minded. less narrow minded.
Tudor and Jan live together in a rented house, but dreams of Tudor and Jan live together in a rented house, but dreams of your own home where you have to be, necessarily, and two cats. Jan's own home where you have to be, necessarily, and two cats. Jan's mid May Appliances torque, it means that he takes care of home housewife torque mid May, it means that he takes care of the house and shopping. Especially since Tudor, being held over and shopping. Especially since Tudor, being held throughout the week, rather idle leisure. However, he is the one that week, rather idle leisure. However, it is the couple who plan trips. The best in the history of their family couple has planned trips. The best of their family history remains getaway to Barcelona. Barcelona getaway.
Some like antiquated and romantic air of the city. Tudor and Jan Some like them antiquated and romantic air of the city. Tudor and Jan liked, but the smell of freedom, feeling themselves can be anywhere nice, but the smell of freedom, feeling themselves can be anywhere, anytime. anytime.
The two have a feeling that in Romania, but in certain limited and two have the feeling that in Romania, but within certain limits, and especially at home. If you would call Jan and Tudor text that would be about especially at home. If you would call Jan and Tudor text that would be about any of you and your half abuse. But because their names any of you and your half abuse. But because their names point to the same sex, the premises of the text changes radically. indicate the same sex, the premises of the text changes radically.
Follow the story of a couple with happiness, anxiety, sadness, pain follows a story about a couple with happiness, anxiety, sadness, pain, small joys and dilemmas. As many of you see around. There will be small joys, dilemmas. As many of you see around. No tripping in name to understand how love is born and what prevented the name to understand how it arises and what you love in life. you alive.
Domestic and domestic and equal equal
Tudor's key relationship with Jan's cooking together. Tudor's key relationship with Jan's cooking together. "If the majority of" If only she cooks most hetero couples, household occupies only cook it or just go straight couples she handles her household just go shopping or just her, things happen to us in two " just shopping it to us two things happen, "says Jan. Jan says.
In exchange for this, Jan is angry, but he runs fast. In exchange for this, Jan is angry, but he runs fast. "That's a" That's in a relationship, each gotta give.'' relationship, each gotta give.''
Tudor's sake, left his hometown and a well paid job. For the sake of Tudor's sake, left his hometown and a well paid job. Jan's sake, Tudor's ordered more careful with household chores and carry Jan, Tudor's neater, more careful with household chores and often carry garbage. Or at least try. often garbage. Or at least try.
Be wanting to move in a country where people do not look weird when be wanting to move in a country where people do not look awkward when taking it at hand. Would like to get married and not to take their hand at it. Would like to get married and not to confess love legal, but because many husbands love testify legal legal advantages, but husbands have many legal benefits that a cohabiting couple does not benefit. In fact, it would only be a couple cohabiting not benefit. In fact, it just wants to be free, to not be afraid, do not be seen with a raised eyebrow or free, to not be afraid, do not be seen with a raised eyebrow, no swearing on the street, or called in many ways, no finger-pointing. swear at or called in many ways, no finger-pointing.
Beginning. Start exorcism. Exorcism
Tudor Kovacs (37) and Jan Manea (34) have always known that there are Tudor Kovacs (37) and Jan Manea (34) have always known that they are "different" than most, but long s They lied to themselves. "Different" than most, but long have lied to themselves.
Hiding from family, friends and colleagues and trying to treat the hide from family, friends and colleagues and sought treatment for "anxiety" that were included when around people "anxiety" that included then when they were around people of the same sex. Only in adulthood have accepted gay. the same sex. Only in adulthood have accepted gay.
Tudor Kovacs had his first wet dream with a man at the age of six years, Tim Kovacs had his first wet dream with a man at age six, but only at 16 and realized that attracts friends, no girlfriends. but only at 16 and realized that attracts friends, no girlfriends.
Rejected, but what happens always sought escape. A refugee was rejected, but what happens always sought escape. He took refuge in faith, in hope that God will help him to defeat the stubbornness of faith, hoping that God would help them defeat the unorthodox tendencies, he joined a religious community and retired somewhere, unorthodox, joined a community religious and retired somewhere in a small village in the UK, where he took part even at a small village in the UK, where he took part even in an exorcism. exorcism.
After numerous failed attempts, reached the upper threshold of patience and After numerous failed attempts, reached the upper threshold of patience and wanted to commit suicide. wanted to commit suicide.
He had but the courage to go through with it and decided, for the first but never had the courage to go through with it and decided, for the first time to face gossip, fears and rejections. About homosexuality time to face gossip, fears and rejections. Homosexuality not know much in the 90's. not too many knew in the 90's.
Tudor Neither knew what, if treated or is no limit to the Tudor did not know what it is, whether treated or is limited to where you could experience. He did not know where and especially how to know could experience. He did not know where and especially how to know other guys like him, so he started to look through the classifieds, other guys like him, so he started to look through the classifieds, then pornographic publications, fresh symbols of capitalism. then pornographic publications, fresh symbols of capitalism. Following letters, phone calls and meetings with the boys secretly like him, followed letters, phone calls and meetings with guys secretly that he is hiding from the world. hiding from the world.
First love only lasted three months and says he caused deep wounds. First love only lasted three months and says he caused deep wounds. Then came other relationships with other men. Feel free, and that it then came other relationships with other men. Feel free, and that it fulfilled. fulfillment.
Dealing. Jan confrontation. Jan
He was 29 years old when he came home with a partner. He was 29 years old when he came home with a partner. "My mother has" Mom asked me: "He's like you? Do you like him? 'I said,' Yeah, I kind of like asking: "He's like you? Do you like him? 'I said,' Yeah, I kind of like him. '" it '". Tudor had big problems when it came to recognize Tudor had big problems when it came to recognize sexual orientation, even in the family. sexual orientation, even in the family.
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On Jan Manea, partner, met five years ago on Jan Manea, partner, met five years ago on the internet, internet, "a website where guys looking guys" "on a site where boys seeking boys "..
Jan was in Curtea de Arges. Tudor in Bucharest. They met when Tudor Jan was in Curtea de Arges. Tudor in Bucharest. They met when Tudor invited to spend a weekend in Jan Capital. Jan says that he invited Jan to spend a weekend in the capital. Jan says it was love at first sight, but that he was glad that they have also awarded a love at first sight, but that he was glad that they have also awarded a second chance. second chance. "He called me one day and asked me if I would like to" He called me one day and asked me if I would like to go to Rome. I said "Yes" and the next second I go to Rome. I said "Yes" and the next second he told me he took tickets. I thought that was a very romantic gesture. He said he got tickets. I thought that was a very romantic gesture. It was the first output abroad together, one of the most beautiful was the first output abroad together, one of the most beautiful vacation in two. " vacancies in two. "
For Jan, recognize that gay was more difficult. Jan lived in order to recognize that being gay was more difficult. Living in a small town where all people knew, and such news would small town where all people knew, and such news would be circulated soon. Wanting to be "normal" had relationships with women, but be circulated soon. Wanting to be "normal" had relationships with women, but none felt fulfilled. Ba last even disappointed in so none felt fulfilled. Ba last even disappointed so much that he gave up the idea of a person quit trying something hard that he gave up the idea to stop trying something a person of the opposite sex. opposite sex.
Jan confessed that he was gay in public a year ago, when Jan said she was gay, publicly a year ago when he represented Romania at Mister Gay Europe in Brasov, an opportunity to win a Romania to Mister Gay Europe in Brasov, on which occasion he won a popularity. popularity award. "They voted friends, colleagues at work, all I have" I voted friends, colleagues at work, all encouraged me. I'm sorry that I attended was an experience that I would encourage. I'm sorry that I attended was an experience that I would repeat it anytime. " repeat it anytime. "
In pursuit of sensational journalists followed him everywhere. They questioned rush sensational journalists followed him everywhere. They questioned neighbors, friends and colleagues, in the hope that someone will make a confession neighbors, friends and colleagues, in the hope that someone will make a shocking confession, worthy of publicity. shocking worthy of publicity.
"It was crazy then" "It was crazy then," he says. he says. "He came all the press in Romania. "He came all the press in Romania. My mother cried on the phone a few hours my mother crying on the phone a few hours after I saw on TV, and not after I saw on TV, and I did not talk for a week. After that he said spoke to me for a week. After that he said he rejects me. We reconciled later that I deny. We got back together later, but then it was a circus indescribable. but when a circus was indescribable. Well, it still does not deal with it, well, it still does not reconcile with the idea, but it is more ok ". but it is more ok ".
Jan has two sisters from a Jan has two sisters from his father's previous marriage, both his father's previous marriage, both straight, who accepted his sexual orientation. Father, that Jan was not straight, who accepted his sexual orientation. Father, that Jan was too close, died two years without learning the truth about him. too close, died two years without learning the truth about him.
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Tudor and Jan talk opening about their relationship, although reluctant to Tudor and Jan talk opening about their relationship, although reluctant to show their love in public. Prefer to understand the eyes, show love in public. Prefer to understand the eyes, rarely touching each hand. touching is rarely on hand.
Freer to express themselves in gay clubs they attend in more free to express themselves in gay clubs they attend in the capital, although there are no excess Tenderness. Capital, although there are no excess Tenderness. "The first time" The first time I was in a gay club happens in England. I was downright terrified. I was in a gay club is happening in England. I was downright terrified. Association, like many other people, the idea of sex, orgies, I was afraid Association, like many other people, the idea of sex, orgies, I was afraid of what I will find there "what you find there," reports Tudor. After the first experience, reports Tudor. After the first experience of this kind was felt relieved. He realized that all ideas about places like this to feel relieved. He realized that all ideas about places frequented by homosexuals were just clichés. frequented by homosexuals were just clichés.
In real life, Tim and Jan are people like us, like you. Love, desire, is in real life, Tim and Jan are people like us, like you. Love, desire, fear, hope, will, APIRE. Must be just a little more careful because fear, hope, will, APIRE. Must be just a little more careful because their road is still narrow minded. Their road is still narrow minded.
Their barrier to their barrier
Jan and Tudor go together to visit the parents of the second sitting of Jan and Tudor go together to visit the parents of the second, they talk, they get along well. "Mid" but confesses that it's not, get along well. "Mid" confess however that this does not happen in the case of his mother. It is a barrier that can not happen again if his mother. It is a barrier that can not pass yet, but hope to succeed one day. Future plans include the two. pass, but hopes to one day succeed. Future plans include the two.
Jan would like a child, but Tudor seems excited by the idea. Jan would like a child, but Tudor seems excited by the idea. "Simply" You just do not know how to behave with them, although I noticed that they like to not know how to behave with them, although I noticed that they like me. I do not think I could take care of a baby now. It is me. I do not think I could take care of a baby now. It is a responsibility too big "too big responsibility," he said. He says.
Conversely, Jan is considering the idea of adoption, but says that no Conversely, Jan is considering the idea of adoption, but says that can not afford at the moment to care for a child. Crisis in recent years and currently allows to take care of a child. The crisis in recent years has affected the financial terms. Blame some of the expenses that affected financially. Blame some expenses that do not succeed to cover them, fear of responsibility, denial lu Tudor. not really manages to cover, fear of responsibility, denial lu Tudor.
But would like a home together, a car and two cats. And maybe, you would like a home together but a car and two cats. And maybe, why not, to immigrate to a place with more opportunities. Barcelona, not to migrate to a place with more opportunities. Barcelona, Jan proposed. There they spent the holiday's favorite. It was the place where the proposed Jan. There they spent the holiday's favorite. It was the place that felt most free. Tudor soul have remained in Paris, Saint felt most free. Tudor soul have remained in Paris, St. Petersburg and New Orleans.
